tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4996632091300076185.post165967369957820247..comments2023-08-19T03:26:52.450-07:00Comments on Wanderlust and Rambling: Blue TiaraRisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16582122840116012400noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4996632091300076185.post-46415361216102970602008-06-25T01:31:00.000-07:002008-06-25T01:31:00.000-07:00I'll see your blue tiara and raise you one black p...I'll see your blue tiara and raise you one black plastic Dracula cape. <BR/><BR/>And you know how everybody goes on vacation and says, "Wouldn't it be great if we lived here?"<BR/><BR/>I just move.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations with the galleries!Steve Malleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17561234111786788616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4996632091300076185.post-58509651591275960942008-06-23T11:31:00.000-07:002008-06-23T11:31:00.000-07:00I can totally relate. The old adage is definitely...I can totally relate. The old adage is definitely true. I love Colorado. I love visiting and the mountains, I miss all those things. And yet. And yet. And a place not "feeling" right doesn't sound weird to me at all. I went to Ireland when I was 17 and I felt like I had gone home in a sense. It's whacky and weird. I'm not Irish. I'm not an immigrant. But it felt almost right. I've since talked to several of my friends about moving there-I have had all these great experiences in Ireland but if I were to move there, would those doors be open to me or are they only open for short periods because I'm tagging along with people who are indigenous or who have welcomed me into their worlds for a few moments. What is at the crux of my feeling? <BR/><BR/>Home is a loaded word. I don't have a boyfriend or a husband or kids so in some ways my endless options are suffocating me. I am not the most traditional so I'm not all that worried about all the things people tell me I should be worried about. And at the same time, I am looking for ways to define what I think home should be. I want settled without roots. Maybe I just need to settle me and then I'll be home all the time. :D <BR/><BR/>And thanks for reading the blog. i think you're about it out there (c: I'm really curious what people feel about this so if you know anyone who would be cool commenting, send 'em my way eh?Risshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16582122840116012400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4996632091300076185.post-36980454594399650912008-06-23T10:34:00.000-07:002008-06-23T10:34:00.000-07:00I just ordered that book -- it sounds pretty good....I just ordered that book -- it sounds pretty good. Scott and I struggle with the "where do we belong?" question all the time. <BR/><BR/>When I was younger, I totally copped out of making those kind of decisions because I joined the Air Force and just went where I was told. <BR/><BR/>Fortunately, I ended my military time in Colorado and I after leaving to go back east for a year and a half, I finally figured out that I actually like it here a lot.<BR/><BR/>We talk about where we'd like to live a lot. Scott lived in California (northern and southern) on and off for about a dozen years and he always says he wants to go back and live in northern California again. I like visiting northern California, but if I'm ever going to not work a job I hate, I feel like there's no way we could afford to live there -- at least not in a place we'd love. The other thing -- and this is weird -- I like visiting there, but whenever I've been there it just doesn't "feel" right. There's something about the the limited driving routes between San Francisco and points north that feels claustrophobic to me and there's something about the people I've met (who all seem very nice) that makes me feel like I just wouldn't fit in there.<BR/><BR/>Finding the place where you feel like you belong is a long term prospect and I don't know that I've ever really felt like I belonged anywhere. <BR/><BR/>When we moved back to New England in 2004 when my father was terminally ill, it confirmed that Thomas Wolfe adage that you can't go home again. Life goes on without you and once you aren't a normal part of it, you just don't feel quite right there -- I really get that. <BR/><BR/>I think when people get married and have kids, they more readily establish roots. Since I've never raised kids (except my step-son for a few years), I've never felt that nesting/settling into an area and making friends with other parents kind of thing.<BR/><BR/>Feeling at home is tricky and I really envy people who get it figured out. I'll be 47 next month and I still haven't got it down :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00665632105920753931noreply@blogger.com